One Giant Irony of Balance

Have you ever just sat and realized that life is one giant irony after another filled with contradictions, but somehow manages to work and fit everything in-between into it?
It’s crazy and insane, but that’s the way it works. How interesting. I think that’s why I believe in not taking life so seriously and the reason why you should have a sense of humor. Because one minute life is this way and you have to be this and in a literal, split second it becomes another way and you have to be and do something else. It can work for better or worse, it can be insufferable and relieving.

I have a hard time wrapping my head around it all sometimes as is to be expected, but it is quite something to know that anything is possible at any time if the conditions are right. You never know what could happen or what each of us, ourselves, are capable of when put under certain circumstances. There are so many possibilities and ways that life can go. There are infinite chances and opportunities for each of us in whatever we do, all depending on what we choose. I think the biggest thing though is acceptance. It’s all about acceptance.

We have to accept life as it is. We have to accept everything that is and the way things are, as they are.  This is the only way that we can truly live. This is the only way we can be and do as we wish. When we honestly look at life, ourselves, and others as they are we can be the best and our lives can be the best that they can be. Life is not all dark and gloom, and it is not all flowers and sunshine. Life is both. Life is dark and light, sunshine and rain, hope and despair, faith and disbelief, just and unjust, and everything in-between. When you accept that, your good.

It serves you, everyone around you, and those you care about very well to be honest in life and in what and who you are. Let the love and light that you are shine through.

Two-Way Street

Love, kindness, happiness, goodness, and all such matters are a Two-Way street. These things go both ways. Not to say that you shouldn’t be kind and the such towards people, because you should and you never know when that kindness and such can make a positive difference in someone else’s life. But my point is, you can only do so much for others. Life is about giving and receiving. It’s about balance, and doing the best you can to do so. It does not do, or help anyone, to just receive or give all their lives.

Do not waste more energy than is needed trying to help someone do something, be a certain way, think a certain way. You simply can not force or infringe what you want on others. I mean you can, it’s been done, talk to the African-American and Indigenous First Nations of America. But in trying to force yourself and beliefs on others you will never win. Sitting on people will only work for so long before those of strong will decide they’ve had enough. And there are many of strong will.

Your energy is precious. Do no more and no less than your best and when you’ve done that, let the situation be what it is. Do not linger where you have come to the bridge and must cross. Some people will have to be left behind to cross on their own. Others will let you hold their hand as you both cross. And others will be able to simply follow your instructions and walk by themselves behind you as you both cross that bridge. Know which person you have with you and act accordingly.

When it comes to relationships, as with pretty much everything else in life, you should get what you give. If that is not happening, walk away. It’s that simple. Is it always easy, no, but it’s what needs to be done. Likewise, if someone is giving to you and you are not making any kind of effort at the least, or contribution back to that person or people, then you have no right or reason to have any ill will toward those that walk away from you.

You get what you give.


We have to go deeper than the surface level. We have to move past what we see and stop basing things on what we see alone. Skin is skin, hair is hair, style is style, love is love, people are people. We’ve got to focus on what’s beyond the visible. How do we do this? We move past those who wish to mold us to their liking by disempowering their negativity. We must acknowledge, respect, and support one another. If you have questions about someone, ask. Ask in a kind and thoughtful manner. If you wish to know more about something read, research whatever it is you want to know. We are far more than shallow, simple minded creatures. We have to respect what the eyes see, then look deeper than what we see, and start respecting the fact that that living being you are looking at is in fact a living being like you who has, and deserves, all the same rights and privileges you have. This is especially true for people of color like myself. We’ve got to get past the idea of proving our presence to others. We, people who are not bound by the “norm”, are not, nor have we ever been, obligated to explain or prove ourselves to any one; let alone explain/prove ourselves to people who have no want or intention of trying to broaden their perception. We’re here, and those who wish not to acknowledge us do know we are here. It’s about all of us (us being we open-minded, free-spirited, open hearted, kind, loving, caring people) coming together and believing in, helping, and lifting one another up. We have to be aware of one another. These problems of racism, sexism, ageism, transphobia, homophobia, and so on end (or at the very least greatly decline) when those of us who recognize each other as people, as we all are, start loving one another and having each other’s backs. We are our brothers keeper, our sisters keeper. When we start speaking up for and with one another there will be far less problems with close-minded, judgmental, hateful, cruel, rude, mean people. We will disempower them by making their hateful and wrongful concepts obsolete. We change negative to positive. We hold hands and walk through life in love. We are souls. We are beings made of love and light. Recognize and respect this. You may not like what you see, but you should respect that we all have the right to be ourselves. We are oceans of great depths with edges that reach far and wide. Together we can do marvelous things.

All That We Are

All that we are, all that we can be, is the best that we can. We can not expect love from someone who has only ever known hate. We can not expect kindness from someone who has been cheated most of their life. The only thing we can expect from others, as well as ourselves, is the best we can do. This is why it is imperative not to judge others. You have no earthly idea what someone else is going through.

Do not misunderstand me, there is no excuse for consciously being rude, mean, unkind, judgmental, and hateful. When you are a child and those things are grown inside of you, you can not help it. You can only take on what is put into you at that point. But when you become mature and able to make your own decisions and choices, you are fully responsible for all of your actions. Just as it is for someone brought up in love it is the same for someone brought up in more difficult circumstances, do the best you can.

No more and no less can be expected from any living being. So we need to cut the crap and stop pretending that anyone is better than anyone else. Unless you make the conscious decision to be and do evil, then people who choose to do right are better. But other than that, we are all the same. We are all trying to make it through this life, doing the absolute best that we can. No one has any right or reason to put themselves above any one else.

We need to stop trying to make ourselves society acceptable and start living life the way it is truly meant to be lived. Screw all the rules and regulations of a society that has no interest in what is in yours, and the people you love’s, best interest. It is of no significance to try to please others, especially when they have no thought of you. On the opposite side of that coin, you can not expect more of others than you expect of yourself. Hold yourself to the standard you set for others. But never expect more of others than they can give.

This is the point at which we come together. Because we know not what perils and obstacles our fellow man faces. Therefore, we must meet one another on common ground. We have to accept one another for who we are. We have to make an attempt to try and understand one another. And those of us in a higher level of mind, spirit, and body must help those who’ve not yet reached the levels they can be at. In saying that, we must remember to do so, to do everything, with the love and light that is a part of us as best we can.

All that we are is the sum of what we do and what we give. Do your best, give your best, and you have fulfilled your life’s purpose. Some of us will do much better than others. Some of us will try and fail. Some of us will not try at all. Do your best and stay in close quarters of the company of those who are trying to do the same. We don’t owe anyone anything, however it is our due diligence to try to help others. We are all here together and we all deserve love, happiness, and goodness. There’s no reason we should not attempt to live in harmony, peace, and love.

In becoming who we are deep inside, the best versions of ourselves, and creating the wonderful world that we all want, we take life as it is and add to it every second of every day the aspects of how we can be and how this world can be. It’s all a matter of practice. We simply have to do our best in practicing to be the best we can be and do the best we can do to create the awesome paradise that this world will surely be when we all come together and love, genuinely and freely. Embrace the ups and downs, the troubles and triumphs, the bad and good, it’s all a part of life. When we stop fighting life, as it is, and start living it, as it is, putting in the energy, and putting in effort it takes to be here and live this life, we will know true greatness.

Do your best. No more and no less.

You Are The Master Commander!

“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.”
                   – William Ernest Henley, Invictus

You, and you alone, are the master of your fate. You, and you alone, are the captain of your soul. You are the author of your story. You are the forger of your path. You are the creator of your destiny. You command yourself. You are solely responsible for yourself. Take charge. Love yourself. Be yourself. You have the key to your paradise. Unlock that door and walk through.

Better Together

We are here to live our individual lives for ourselves. But we are not meant to do it alone. That’s why all of us are here.
We are manifestations of love and light that live among our fellow stars to help and love one another.
We are not meant to be alone.
We are meant to embrace one another.
We are here together.
We are here with one another.
We are all different creatures in our own right and ways, we look different, speak differently, believe differently, have different cultures and upbringings, we are different in so many ways. Yet, we are all the same.
We are One. One people. One love.

This life is ours to experience together.
We are all connected; all strands in the enormous web of life.
We are our own separate strands that connect with all others in love.
Acknowledge it, be grateful for it, and enjoy it.
We are great on our own, but we are better than ever together.


You are important.
You are special.
You are unique. One of a kind.
You are the only you there will ever be.
You are a part of this community, world, humanity, universe.
You owe no one for anything.
You are here to live for yourself.
You are here to experience life.
You are here to enjoy life.
You are here for your own experience.
You are here to be yourself.
You are love wrapped in a beautiful body that deserves love on every level, spiritually, intellectually, physically, and emotionally.
You are whole.
You are you.
You are loved.

Love you and enjoy you. You deserve to.

This Is About You


(Repost from Tumblr)

*Note: Bruce Lee was the MAN!! just sayin.

What I’m coming to terms with and have learned is that how you think of, perceive, and treat yourself determines everything in your life. It affects how you treat others, what you do, how you do it, if you do it, when you do it, where you do it. (It being whatever action that applies to whatever situation or circumstance you are dealing or will have to deal with.) Your thoughts and feelings about yourself translate into everything you do in your life.

I am a kind person and do nice things, but I used to do it just because I wanted attention, wanted to fit in, be liked, and be popular.  Well, that never got me what I wanted. Why? Because those were all the wrong reasons to be kind and nice. You have to be yourself and live your life for the right reason, which is for yourself. You owe no one, anything. Your life is yours and it is meant for you to live it the way you want to. We must ackowledge, know, be, and accept ourselves. We are ever-growing, ever changing beings and we need to mind that.

We are our own worst critics. The meanest person in the world to others is still kind compared to the hell we put our own selves through. You have to look carefully and honestly at yourself. You need to see yourself as you are and deal with it. Improve what can be improved. Get rid of what does not serve you. You have to take care of yourself and do what’s best for you. You must learn to constantly check yourself. This is an every second of every day practice. And let me just add, that perfection has NOTHING to do with anything. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about doing your best in all that you do. Always put forth your best effort.

In order for us to be the best we can for others we must firstly take care of ourselves. Get to know yourself this year. Understand yourself and who you are. Become one with yourself. It’s well worth it.