I am love. I am enough.
You are love. With intention, attention, and action you are always becoming love. Say it, repeat it, believe it, know it, live it. – AJ
I am love. I am enough.
You are love. With intention, attention, and action you are always becoming love. Say it, repeat it, believe it, know it, live it. – AJ
Pain is necessary, suffering is not.
“Pursue your passions, accept your struggle. Let your pain shape you, and love transform you.”
– Mirtha Michelle, Castro Mármol
Pain is a tool to be used and learned from. It is meant to help us. It assists in our growth, which makes it an important factor in life. We just need to remember this, and pain itself, as well as letting go after the experience, won’t be an issue.
Suffering, on the other hand, is neither necessary or useful. Suffering begets extra negativity that we do not need. It is what causes us to hold on. Holding onto things, emotions, ideas, and people we do not need and that do not serve us is unnecessary. We do not have to suffer. Suffering is a self-inflicted mechanism that we have 100% control over.
Accept what you can not change, and learn to change what you can. Always be on the learning curve. Pain is your ally.
Feel and let go. Attach yourself to nothing except Love.
Today’s greatness tips come from one of my spiritual leaders, John Assaraf. Follow him on Facebook to see his talks on Tuesdays, 11 am central time.
Learn, Practice, Repeat
We must find out what we don’t know and need to know, then build upon that. Life is an everyday practice in and of itself, so it goes for all else. A problem that many of us have, I’m speaking from experience here, is that we start practicing but then we get tired and give up or either take a break and settle into break mode. We have to learn to fight past that. This is life, life is work; made all the more difficult when we add on unnecessary suffering. Life is simple, some situations and circumstances can be difficult, but we need not get caught up on that. Difficulty is neither here nor there because we can make it through anything we set our minds to. The point is, learn to whether the storm, and keep moving. We may be tired but life doesn’t stop, and neither should we. We come out all the stronger when we push through.
Learn, Practice, Repeat. Learn, Practice, Repeat. Learn, Practice, Repeat.
“Practice makes the master.” – Don Miguel Ruiz
“Repetition is key.” – John Kehoe
There are millions of teachers and leaders around you to learn from about this life experience. All the information and knowledge you need to live, live well, and make the most of this experience is there for you. Find your mentor(s), learn, practice, repeat. Do what serves you. Do what you can for others. Learn, practice, repeat.
” – but our countries are counting on us to miss the link… they are painting the enemy foreign and selling the product domestic… so let this build your anger for the depletion of our oceans, but make sure your anger goes to the right recipient.”
– Madison Stewart (aka Shark Girl)
This is the truth and the key to taking back our power as the people. We have to realize, acknowledge, and accept the atrocities and the depth of the atrocities we and our governments create. We have to first realize that what is happening is wrong and then that we continue it and normalize it every single day by our continued participation. The power lies with us.
We are the ones who fuel our oppressors. We are the ones who do the work for them and make their wrong doings possible, through willful blindness and fearful compliance. We can no longer exist under these circumstances; especially when we do not have to. We are under no obligation to add to our own suffering. And the only way to change things is to take radical action.
People were made to be afraid of that word. It is a powerful one, because when we become radical, things get done, things change. We have to start putting our best interest first instead of the oppressors. Anger is a useful tool if applied in the right way and mindset. It can be used to fuel good, creative, universal change, which is much needed right now.
In life, there are very few requirements in the grand scheme of things, and the #1 requirement is that you show up. You have to show up, for yourself and others. You have to act and take things into your own hands. You make the difference between war and peace, justice and injustice, hope and despair, right and wrong. You are the link that creates the world around you.
Your inaction is just as vital, and more in some cases, as your action. Your choices truly do matter. You truly do matter. Your life and presence here in this world, at this moment in time make ALL the difference. You’ve got to be willing to take charge of your own life, see things as they are, and do what you can to be a positive and helpful force during your journey here.
“- the world does not need people who hope for change right now, it needs people who will fight for it.” – Madison Stewart
Dealing with your own pain is hard enough, but dealing with that of someone else, especially someone you care for and love deeply, is a whole other thing all together.
You can’t fight someone in their struggle, let alone about their struggle. They have to heal in their own way, in their own time. All you can do is be present for them, patient, understanding, honest, truthful, supportive, and loving. It’s not a walk in the park. Seeing another suffer is one of the absolute worst things that we have to deal with as humans. But it happens. And we have to be there for people in their struggle. They have to deal and we need to be there for them. Because though their struggle affects us, it’s not about us, it’s about them. Remember that. We all have to learn.
Getting it together is an ongoing process, as I have come to learn. It being yourself, your life in general, your work, your spirituality. It encompasses many things. I used to feel like getting it together was a thing that took a limited amount of time. You work on it like you do everything else and it gets simpler to deal with as you go. Easier? No. Life Is not easy and is not now, nor has it ever been, dependent on ease. But it does not have an actual time stamp. Everyone of us are different and our situations are different as well, it’s case by case as far as it pertains to how we handle it, when we handle it, etc.
It is a process, an ongoing, ever-changing process and as for me, I am in the process of beginning to get it together in general. Starting is usually the hardest part. That’s what I heard. And boy is it true. The biggest killer of this process is procrastination and laziness. I am 110% guilty of both. I was stuck for a couple of years after graduating high school, then I started to find myself internally, emotionally, and spiritually. I became aware of myself in those ways. But I soon realized that that isn’t enough either, to just be aware. You have to act upon your awareness. And that’s when the falling short came in. I became a procrastinator. For a year I distracted myself. After that I hit the spot most of us hit a couple years after high school, I had no clue what my purpose was, what I was passionate about. So for the next year I was just plain lost. That led me to becoming lazy.
Laziness is a terrible phase to be in. You feel sluggish and tired all the time and you long for something better but put forth no effort or strength to make things happen for yourself. Well, let me clarify something, it is not the end of the world for you to be in this phase. It happens, not to everyone but to many, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. People get here and we look around to see others moving and doing things while we sit stagnant. Do not stay in that moment of discouragement. It happens. What we need to learn is that we must not judge ourselves or others and lie acting like this stage doesn’t happen. People have been stifled for too long through lies and deceit. If you’re in this stage of laziness, firstly acknowledge it, then make an effort to change your mindset. We get stuck in laziness because we make no effort.
Effort is the difference between those of us who live and those who just exist. No one wants to just exist, but that’s what happens when you don’t try. You have to try, you have to be willing to work, all the time, on yourself and your life. Do right by yourself. Give yourself a chance. We are meant to have hardships and struggles. What we are meant to do is experience them, learn from them, and move on. It can seem a daunting task, but it can certainly be done. Give it your all and life will see that and respond to it. The vibes and work that we put out matter. They matter a lot. They are the difference between a fulfilled and unfulfilled life. Please do yourself the favor and commit. Commit to yourself. People, be they family, friends, colleagues, strangers, whoever, will have opinions and thoughts and feelings about you and pretty much everything you do. There is no way to avoid that, so accept that that is a non-factor for you.
Focus on you. Find what it is you want to do, what you love and are passionate about. If you are not sure, do what you really like. There is always something that you really like and enjoy, do that. And if it’s multiple things that’s even better. There is this quote that inspires me and reminds me to constantly do this. “The shit that makes your heart beat faster and your eyes glow when you do it or talk about it, no matter if it’s hiking, yoga, gardening, painting, sex, meditation, photography, going for walks, helping others – do that. Do it as often as you can. Because that’s what life is about. Creating as many passionate, happy moments as possible. Don’t let anyone stop you from doing the things you love – not even yourself.” These words ring true. Again I’m only in the beginning stages myself as I’ve just finally decided to truly commit to myself. But I just want to encourage you to do the same. Make the leap.
A lot of the villains in movies and books like to say that their enemies are weak for caring, but the truth, in fiction and reality, is that it takes much more guts to actually deal with yourself, your life, your circumstances and situations, to actually try, and put yourself out there. It takes guts, brains, bravery, courage, heart, strength, and more to give a shit. It is easy to hide from yourself, others, and life and to let your potential slip away from you because you don’t take the chance to overcome your fears and obstacles. That is true weakness. And you are not weak by nature. Greatness and strength are in our genes, they are the fabric from which we were created. They live within us all. It is only a matter of realizing, acknowledging, accepting, and acting upon our selves and potential. You can do it, you can make it work. Trust in yourself. Your greatness and strength are there within you whether you realize it or not. But when you make the decision to begin and begin, life takes notice and works in your favor.
Like I said in the beginning, we are all different and our situations are too because we are all different in how we handle things and who we deal with and so on. The point is that you have what it takes to make it in this world and life. Effort and perseverance is what it takes. As you get it together, remember these words. There is no limit because it is an ongoing process, but you must be diligent. Of course, we must keep in mind that we never know when our lives will end, that is the only limit that exists as long as you are alive. But let no one tell you that it’s too late to change. As long as there is breathe in your body, you can overcome, you can learn, you can grow, you can do and be better. You Can. You Can. You Can. After all, people have been doing it since we came to be on this glorious planet. The choice is yours my friend. You have everything you need and are more than capable of leading a happy and fulfilling life. Go get it.
Being content with yourself is a journey. It takes constant energy and attention everyday. And it’s quite the feat. Being content, let alone realizing that you already are and have everything you need and letting that be, is a process.
Most of us have learned to beat ourselves up and make ourselves suffer more than necessary through the cycle of our parents and ancestors far back trying to make us in their image rather than just letting us be as we are and learn in our own time and ways as we go. It is no one’s fault that that became the norm, we can only start with what we’re given after all, but it is on us if we realize the issue and do nothing to better it. A lot of us have come to open up and see the breaks and cracks within ourselves and lives and the way society works; it is now up to us to heal, do, and be better, for ourselves firstly and for future generations.
The important thing to remember is that this, this journey, is yours, it is for you. You owe no one. No one. Not your family, friends, peers, colleagues, boss, no one. This is life. This is the chance you have right now to live, to be, to explore, to experience. Since the industrial age began we’ve come to this space in which having a job and working ourselves to death for money to get by for the few in power is the way of life and the way of the world. Forget that. That is not life nor the purpose of life.
We have to know ourselves, our worth, what we do and do not deserve. We have to go back to the time of knowing and living our truths. We have to remember the true purpose of life, to live and experience, to love and be loved, to enjoy and savor. Long ago, we lived with the Earth and her creatures, we respected everyone and everything. We’ve never been societies definition of perfect, which does not matter anyway, at all, in any shape, form, or fashion; but we lived according to our personal flow and connected spiritually with each other, all given to us, and life as a whole. It is time we return.
In this day in time, we are experiencing something that has not been done in a long time, not in this way, and not to this degree. We are experiencing personal freedom, true unity, and genuine acceptance. It is alarming and foreign to many of the older generation, save the few who are and were awake the whole time or eventually became aware, though it is beginning to spread like wildfire. It is the balance of life. For too long has separatism, hatefulness, greed, and willful blindness run rampant. We are entering a new era of peace, unity, acceptance, care, kindness, goodness, justice, honesty, truthfulness, consciousness, self-awareness, self-care, self-acceptance, self-love, and pure joy.
The point is, begin your process. Begin and live your personal journey. Start and don’t stop for anything or anyone. When you make a mistake, acknowledge it, accept it, do your best to be and do better, and if you’ve hurt someone, apologize, mean it, and make a concerted effort to not make the same mistake. Do not beat yourself up, even if you do make the same mistake repeatedly and in general. It does no good and helps neither yourself or others to prolong and worsen your suffering. We all have to go through trials and obstacles, we all have to hurt and feel pain because it is a part of life and contributes to making life the beautiful, insane experience that it is. It is necessary just like good times, simple times, and enjoyable times.
Repeat this as necessary: “I am not my thoughts, emotions, sense perceptions, and experiences. I am not the content of my life, I am Life, I am the space in which all things happen. I am consciousness. I am the Now. I Am.”* I am not my body, other peoples expectations, other peoples wants, other peoples judgments or opinions. I am what, who, and how I choose to be. I am that I Am.
You are a beautiful, unique, special, incredible, wonderful being. You are not from this life, you are just visiting for a while. Enjoy your experience here. This is all temporary. Make the most of this moment. Show up and do your best, that is all that is required. You have to care and you have to try, continuously. Nothing is certain and you can not be given what you already have. Use your focus, will, power, grit, perseverance, and love to guide you. You are a free spirit that cannot be contained. You are a light that can never be dimmed by another. The only thing standing in your way is you. Find a way or make a way. Flow and grow. You are love, so be it.
*Quote from Eckhart Tolle