Getting it together is an ongoing process, as I have come to learn. It being yourself, your life in general, your work, your spirituality. It encompasses many things. I used to feel like getting it together was a thing that took a limited amount of time. You work on it like you do everything else and it gets simpler to deal with as you go. Easier? No. Life Is not easy and is not now, nor has it ever been, dependent on ease. But it does not have an actual time stamp. Everyone of us are different and our situations are different as well, it’s case by case as far as it pertains to how we handle it, when we handle it, etc.
It is a process, an ongoing, ever-changing process and as for me, I am in the process of beginning to get it together in general. Starting is usually the hardest part. That’s what I heard. And boy is it true. The biggest killer of this process is procrastination and laziness. I am 110% guilty of both. I was stuck for a couple of years after graduating high school, then I started to find myself internally, emotionally, and spiritually. I became aware of myself in those ways. But I soon realized that that isn’t enough either, to just be aware. You have to act upon your awareness. And that’s when the falling short came in. I became a procrastinator. For a year I distracted myself. After that I hit the spot most of us hit a couple years after high school, I had no clue what my purpose was, what I was passionate about. So for the next year I was just plain lost. That led me to becoming lazy.
Laziness is a terrible phase to be in. You feel sluggish and tired all the time and you long for something better but put forth no effort or strength to make things happen for yourself. Well, let me clarify something, it is not the end of the world for you to be in this phase. It happens, not to everyone but to many, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. People get here and we look around to see others moving and doing things while we sit stagnant. Do not stay in that moment of discouragement. It happens. What we need to learn is that we must not judge ourselves or others and lie acting like this stage doesn’t happen. People have been stifled for too long through lies and deceit. If you’re in this stage of laziness, firstly acknowledge it, then make an effort to change your mindset. We get stuck in laziness because we make no effort.
Effort is the difference between those of us who live and those who just exist. No one wants to just exist, but that’s what happens when you don’t try. You have to try, you have to be willing to work, all the time, on yourself and your life. Do right by yourself. Give yourself a chance. We are meant to have hardships and struggles. What we are meant to do is experience them, learn from them, and move on. It can seem a daunting task, but it can certainly be done. Give it your all and life will see that and respond to it. The vibes and work that we put out matter. They matter a lot. They are the difference between a fulfilled and unfulfilled life. Please do yourself the favor and commit. Commit to yourself. People, be they family, friends, colleagues, strangers, whoever, will have opinions and thoughts and feelings about you and pretty much everything you do. There is no way to avoid that, so accept that that is a non-factor for you.
Focus on you. Find what it is you want to do, what you love and are passionate about. If you are not sure, do what you really like. There is always something that you really like and enjoy, do that. And if it’s multiple things that’s even better. There is this quote that inspires me and reminds me to constantly do this. “The shit that makes your heart beat faster and your eyes glow when you do it or talk about it, no matter if it’s hiking, yoga, gardening, painting, sex, meditation, photography, going for walks, helping others – do that. Do it as often as you can. Because that’s what life is about. Creating as many passionate, happy moments as possible. Don’t let anyone stop you from doing the things you love – not even yourself.” These words ring true. Again I’m only in the beginning stages myself as I’ve just finally decided to truly commit to myself. But I just want to encourage you to do the same. Make the leap.
A lot of the villains in movies and books like to say that their enemies are weak for caring, but the truth, in fiction and reality, is that it takes much more guts to actually deal with yourself, your life, your circumstances and situations, to actually try, and put yourself out there. It takes guts, brains, bravery, courage, heart, strength, and more to give a shit. It is easy to hide from yourself, others, and life and to let your potential slip away from you because you don’t take the chance to overcome your fears and obstacles. That is true weakness. And you are not weak by nature. Greatness and strength are in our genes, they are the fabric from which we were created. They live within us all. It is only a matter of realizing, acknowledging, accepting, and acting upon our selves and potential. You can do it, you can make it work. Trust in yourself. Your greatness and strength are there within you whether you realize it or not. But when you make the decision to begin and begin, life takes notice and works in your favor.
Like I said in the beginning, we are all different and our situations are too because we are all different in how we handle things and who we deal with and so on. The point is that you have what it takes to make it in this world and life. Effort and perseverance is what it takes. As you get it together, remember these words. There is no limit because it is an ongoing process, but you must be diligent. Of course, we must keep in mind that we never know when our lives will end, that is the only limit that exists as long as you are alive. But let no one tell you that it’s too late to change. As long as there is breathe in your body, you can overcome, you can learn, you can grow, you can do and be better. You Can. You Can. You Can. After all, people have been doing it since we came to be on this glorious planet. The choice is yours my friend. You have everything you need and are more than capable of leading a happy and fulfilling life. Go get it.