No More Complacency

Complacency is the death of personal growth. Complacency is the death of  love. Complacency is the detriment of forward motion.

It does not do to go with what has been laid out in front of you just because it is what someone else wants for you, or tells you. It does not do to follow people blindly and not read between the lines. It does not do to let your decisions be made for you without your consent or consideration.

You have to care. You have to work. You have to try. You have to do for yourself. You are responsible. You are accountable for everything you do and everything you do not do.

The way your life is, the way the world is, and the way it works is a direct reflection of you and your choices. Each of us is a part of this world and we what do and don’t do, what we tolerate and do not tolerate creates the life that we live.

It is our duty, firstly to ourselves and then to those around us, to show up. We need to show up for ourselves and show up for others. It is time that we take our lives in to our own hands. Demand more of yourself. Push yourself further. Test yourself and your boundaries. Be willing to get to know yourself, your worth, and what you’re capable of. And encourage others to do the same.

We create our realities. Let us do so with love, care, kindness, goodness, respect, and consideration for all. When we realize our own worth and potential, and live it, we make life better. Do it. Fight for yourself. Fight for others.

Do not be complacent. Decide. Make your own choices. Do for yourself and do for others. This is your time and your chance to make the most of all you’ve been given.

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Soul Journey

A personal note.

The personal journey is a messy roller coaster that is ever changing. Its hard and it’s crazy, and it can be overwhelming. At the same time, that is also what makes the growth so worth it. That feeling of knowing what you came through, what you survived, and what you overcame to get where you are. That is a beautiful feeling. I’m trying to remember that.

Growth is a gift and so is everything that comes with it. I enjoy the highs and am so grateful for the beauty that is Life in all its infinite, wondrous glory. I am just as grateful for the lows. They aren’t fun while you’re there but they really do so much for us in helping to make this life what it is. That sense of fulfillment through self-care and self-love is truly indescribable. And even more potent when you realize that it was you who made it through. You had help from great guides, teachers, and influences along the way, but it was you who did the work and came out victorious.

I’m going through a phase of self-discovery and the Universe is testing me to see what I’m  really made of. Boy do I have some work to do. But all I can think right now is to be grateful. When you see life that way it really does help and make whatever situation you’re in better. Being in a constant state of gratefulness brings forth the concrete strength that lies within you. You have to work at it and it is a huge trail, but it is vital not to give in.

It is also imperative to make sure, especially this day in time when there is so much out there to absorb, to have positive, kind, goodhearted, humble guides, teachers, and inspirations to look up to and learn from. They are key to your journey. We are in full control of what we give attention to and the energy that we absorb through social media (a great perk!). Use that wisely. You don’t have to absorb bad energy and negativity. It’s always going to be there but you NEVER have to give power to it.

Stay focused on you and your journey. Do everything you can to stay within yourself and not get caught up with things that stifle, and hinder you. Feel what you feel, let whatever comes come, and let go of whatever needs to be released. We all have the innate senses to know what we need and don’t need. Be smart and work smart, not hard. Grind but do not wear yourself out. And whenever you find yourself out of alignment, acknowledge it and come back to your core.

The Source lies within you. Your Source is in your core, it is your core. Remember. Come back to your core, your center. There you will find all you need. In your core lies all the answers. In your core lies your connection to all, to everything within and outside of you. That connection is Life. That is who and what you truly are. You are the Sun, the Moon, the Stars. You are a Milky Way, a Galaxy, the Universe. Your body is temporary but You are Infinite. You everything, everywhere, and everlasting.  Remember. Love. Love yourself, love others, enjoy the journey.

Getting It Together

Getting it together is an ongoing process, as I have come to learn. It being yourself, your life in general, your work, your spirituality. It encompasses many things. I used to feel like getting it together was a thing that took a limited amount of time. You work on it like you do everything else and it gets simpler to deal with as you go. Easier? No. Life Is not easy and is not now, nor has it ever been, dependent on ease. But it does not have an actual time stamp. Everyone of us are different and our situations are different as well, it’s case by case as far as it pertains to how we handle it, when we handle it, etc.

It is a process, an ongoing, ever-changing process and as for me, I am in the process of beginning to get it together in general. Starting is usually the hardest part. That’s what I heard. And boy is it true. The biggest killer of this process is procrastination and laziness. I am 110% guilty of both. I was stuck for a couple of years after graduating high school, then I started to find myself internally, emotionally, and spiritually. I became aware of myself in those ways. But I soon realized that that isn’t enough either, to just be aware. You have to act upon your awareness. And that’s when the falling short came in. I became a procrastinator. For a year I distracted myself. After that I hit the spot most of us hit a couple years after high school, I had no clue what my purpose was, what I was passionate about. So for  the next year I was just plain lost. That led me to becoming lazy.

Laziness is a terrible phase to be in. You feel sluggish and tired all the time and you long for something better but put forth no effort or strength to make things happen for yourself. Well, let me clarify something, it is not the end of the world for you to be in this phase. It happens, not to everyone but to many, and it is nothing to be ashamed of. People get here and we look around to see others moving and doing things while we sit stagnant. Do not stay in that moment of discouragement. It happens. What we need to learn is that we must not judge ourselves or others and lie acting like this stage doesn’t happen. People have been stifled for too long through lies and deceit. If you’re in this stage of laziness, firstly acknowledge it, then make an effort to change your mindset. We get stuck in laziness because we make no effort.

Effort is the difference between those of us who live and those who just exist. No one wants to just exist, but that’s what happens when you don’t try. You have to try, you have to be willing to work, all the time, on yourself and your life. Do right by yourself. Give yourself a chance. We are meant to have hardships and struggles. What we are meant to do is experience them, learn from them, and move on. It can seem a daunting task, but it can certainly be done. Give it your all and life will see that and respond to it. The vibes and work that we put out matter. They matter a lot. They are the difference between a fulfilled and unfulfilled life. Please do yourself the favor and commit. Commit to yourself. People, be they family, friends, colleagues, strangers, whoever, will have opinions and thoughts and feelings about you and pretty much everything you do. There is no way to avoid that, so accept that that is a non-factor for you.

Focus on you. Find what it is you want to do, what you love and are passionate about. If you are not sure, do what you really like. There is always something that you really like and enjoy, do that. And if it’s multiple things that’s even better. There is this quote that inspires me and reminds me to constantly do this. “The shit that makes your heart beat faster and your eyes glow when you do it or talk about it, no matter if it’s hiking, yoga, gardening, painting, sex, meditation, photography, going for walks, helping others – do that. Do it as often as you can. Because that’s what life is about. Creating as many passionate, happy moments as possible. Don’t let anyone stop you from doing the things you love – not even yourself.” These words ring true. Again I’m only in the beginning stages myself as I’ve just finally decided to truly commit to myself. But I just want to encourage you to do the same. Make the leap.

A lot of the villains in movies and books like to say that their enemies are weak for caring, but the truth, in fiction and reality, is that it takes much more guts to actually deal with yourself, your life, your circumstances and situations, to actually try, and put yourself out there. It takes guts, brains, bravery, courage, heart, strength, and more to give a shit. It is easy to hide from yourself, others, and life and to let your potential slip away from you because you don’t take the chance to overcome your fears and obstacles. That is true weakness. And you are not weak by nature. Greatness and strength are in our genes, they are the fabric from which we were created. They live within us all. It is only a matter of realizing, acknowledging, accepting, and acting upon our selves and potential. You can do it, you can make it work. Trust in yourself. Your greatness and strength are there within you whether you realize it or not. But when you make the decision to begin and begin, life takes notice and works in your favor.

Like I said in the beginning, we are all different and our situations are too because we are all different in how we handle things and who we deal with and so on. The point is that you have what it takes to make it in this world and life. Effort and perseverance is what it takes. As you get it together, remember these words. There is no limit because it is an ongoing process, but you must be diligent. Of course, we must keep in mind that we never know when our lives will end, that is the only limit that exists as long as you are alive. But let no one tell you that it’s too late to change. As long as there is breathe in your body, you can overcome, you can learn, you can grow, you can do and be better. You Can. You Can. You Can. After all, people have been doing it since we came to be on this glorious planet. The choice is  yours my friend. You have everything you need and are more than capable of leading a happy and fulfilling life. Go get it.

Awaken

Being content with yourself is a journey. It takes constant energy and attention everyday. And it’s quite the feat. Being content, let alone realizing that you already are and have everything you need and letting that be, is a process.

Most of us have learned to beat ourselves up and make ourselves suffer more than necessary through the cycle of our parents and ancestors far back trying to make us in their image rather than just letting us be as we are and learn in our own time and ways as we go.  It is no one’s fault that that became the norm, we can only start with what we’re given after all, but it is on us if we realize the issue and do nothing to better it. A lot of us have come to open up and see the breaks and cracks within ourselves and lives and the way society works; it is now up to us to heal, do, and be better, for ourselves firstly and for future generations.

The important thing to remember is that this, this journey, is yours, it is for you. You owe no one. No one. Not your family, friends, peers, colleagues, boss, no one. This is life. This is the chance you have right now to live, to be, to explore, to experience. Since the industrial age began we’ve come to this space in which having a job and working ourselves to death for money to get by for the few in power is the way of life and the way of the world. Forget that. That is not life nor the purpose of life.

We have to know ourselves, our worth, what we do and do not deserve. We have to go back to the time of knowing and living our truths. We have to remember the true purpose of life, to live and experience, to love and be loved, to enjoy and savor. Long ago, we lived with the Earth and her creatures, we respected everyone and everything. We’ve never been societies definition of perfect, which does not matter anyway, at all, in any shape, form, or fashion; but we lived according to our personal flow and connected spiritually with each other, all given to us, and life as a whole. It is time we return.

In this day in time, we are experiencing something that has not been done in a long time, not in this way, and not to this degree. We are experiencing personal freedom, true unity, and genuine acceptance. It is alarming and foreign to many of the older generation, save the few who are and were awake the whole time or eventually became aware, though it is beginning to spread like wildfire. It is the balance of life. For too long has separatism, hatefulness, greed, and willful blindness run rampant. We are entering a new era of peace, unity, acceptance, care, kindness, goodness, justice, honesty, truthfulness, consciousness, self-awareness, self-care, self-acceptance, self-love, and pure joy.

The point is, begin your process. Begin and live your personal journey. Start and don’t stop for anything or anyone. When you make a mistake, acknowledge it, accept it, do your best to be and do better, and if you’ve hurt someone, apologize, mean it, and make a concerted effort to not make the same mistake. Do not beat yourself up, even if you do make the same mistake repeatedly and in general. It does no good and helps neither yourself or others to prolong and worsen your suffering. We all have to go through   trials and obstacles, we all have to hurt and feel pain because it is a part of life and contributes to making life the beautiful, insane experience that it is. It is necessary just like good times, simple times, and enjoyable times.

Repeat this as necessary: “I am not my thoughts, emotions, sense perceptions, and experiences. I am not the content of my life, I am Life, I am the space in which all things happen. I am consciousness. I am the Now. I Am.”* I am not my body, other peoples expectations, other peoples wants, other peoples judgments or opinions. I am what, who, and how I choose to be. I am that I Am.

You are a beautiful, unique, special, incredible, wonderful being. You are not from this life, you are just visiting for a while. Enjoy your experience here. This is all temporary. Make the most of this moment. Show up and do your best, that is all that is required. You have to care and you have to try, continuously. Nothing is certain and you can not be given what you already have. Use your focus, will, power, grit, perseverance, and love to guide you. You are a free spirit that cannot be contained. You are a light that can never be dimmed by another. The only thing standing in your way is you. Find a way or make a way. Flow and grow. You are love, so be it.

*Quote from Eckhart Tolle